Here’s another wonderful piece of advice my previous boss, David Norgard, gave me.
When he noticed that I was having a hard time dealing with criticism and could almost never remember the positive feedback I had received in the past…he suggested something very simple that has helped me tremendously.
He told me to take a plain old manila file folder out of the drawer and write “bouquets” on it. Then, every time someone wrote or said something nice to me, I needed to print it out or write it down and put it into the folder. That way, when I was feeling particularly insecure or stung by criticism, I could go to the file and gain a little perspective.
Seems simple, but it made a big difference.
anna said:
Rachel, you amaze me.
x
Lynne Whitacre said:
Now this is a great idea!!!
claudia kaul said:
Rachel,
I’ve been doing this for years, but call it my “appreciation file.” I still have files with special cards, notes, memos etc. from 20 years ago. Maybe that’s a bit excessive but it works for me. It’s like opening a treasure box and rediscovering a world of love and support.
It’s such a good idea to do this. And I love the way these things come to light for all of us. Thanks Rachel.
Noemi Hedrick said:
very helpful.
Ron Duffy said:
Rachel,
I enjoyed this post. Thank you. I like to save note cards, emails, etc, when someone has said kind words to me or about me, but over time, they tend to “get lost.” So, when a bad day / week occurs, these “bouquets” are not accessible. So, the idea of keeping an “appreciation / bouquet” file is a good one. I labeled a folder a few moments ago. I trust I will start using it. Thank you. Ron Duffy
tami said:
rachel,
thanks for sharing this idea! I have recently starting doing this, and it feels so good knowing how loved you are when you are down!! awesome idea!!!
Carol said:
I like it!
Gail said:
Luv it! I’m going to try it!
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